Things I Learnt Being A 25-year-old

بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيمِ

Hi people.

I'm turning 26 soon. Imma list down things I have learnt the whole year through my own experiences because I know some days, I need myself to be reminded by myself. So, whatever I have learnt during one whole year being a 25 year old are my own experiences, tiada kena mengena dengan yang hidup atau yang mati. Gituh disclaimer.

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1. You should not worry about things that are out of your control. Why? Because it takes up too much energy and more often than not, it won't end the way you want. So why waste time and energy worrying about that? Let it go and instead, focus on what you can control.

2. It is okay to distance yourself from people. Distancing yourself from some people does not mean you hate them. In a way, it helps the relationship to heal. Also, you can take this time to reflect on yourself. Did you treat that person well? Are you toxic to them? What you can and want to change in the relationship?

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3. Acceptance is key to making peace with yourself, with the world. It is hard at first but just try. I was heartbroken once and I kept questioning and pondering what could be done differently to change things. It was hard and painful but when you start to accept things, I believe I can see more clearly. You will eventually see why such things happened and what could you gain from it. Again, it's hard to just accepting stuff because naturally you want to fight, you want to do all you can. But no. Not everything deserves your effort and you, you deserve to be at peace. So, accept whatever happened first. I might learn this after being dumped lol but I am now applying it to almost everything hahaha.

And oh, I would like to quote Albus Percival Wulfric Brian Dumbledore (that's the full name of Professor Dumbledore, guys), "Understanding is the first step to acceptance, and only with acceptance can there be recovery." A brilliant man, Dumbledore is.

4. Do things because you want to, not because other people do it. Going to places, eating food, buying stuff, being in a relationship - do it because you want to, not because other people are doing it, not because you want to impress other people. Do you know how tiring it is trying to impress people, doing things because it's the trend and you don't want to look lame for not following it? IT IS EXHAUSTING. That kind of behaviour literally eats your mental energy, your time, your respect for yourself. 

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5. Block, unfollow, mute someone is not immature. I used to think it was. Now, I have muted like almost a hundred Twitter accounts. Most of them I don't even follow but since they appear on my timeline and their tweets annoyed me, I muted them. You know, tweets with insensitive jokes, spreading hates, making fun of someone or worse, a religion. Yeah those kind of tweets. I just go mute them. I don't see the tweets, I don't complain, I don't judge and I don't have to talk bad about that person. See less, sin less wahhhh gitu tagline #donedakwah. But really, muting benefit-less accounts on Twitter helps me a lot. And of course, I believe if people don't like my content or anything, they can block or mute me too.

p/s: I also mute some of my friends who apparently keep liking 18sx photos. Guys, you know what you like appear on your followers' timeline right? So no thanks, I don't want to see strangers with no clothes on my timeline. I have sinned enough lol. I don't mute because I hate some of them. I just mute because I don't want to see certain contents. Gittew.

6. Tiny improvements are still improvements. Baby steps are okay. We are forever a student and life is a never ending lesson. The small things you do every day will amount to big thing, one day. So don't give up easily. Just keep improving.

I learnt a lot but I believe these 6 points are those I want to remember most and keep practising them in my life. Anyway, with these lessons I have learnt, I hope I will be wiser, smarter, mature-r, calmer, and of course RICHER when I hit 26 hahaha. Aamiin. 

Thanks for reading!

Stay safe.